Understanding Family Constellations with Essence of Geeta
Chapter # 1 Becoming the Light of your System
दुर्जन: सज्जनो भूयात्
सज्जन: शान्तिमाप्नुयात् |
शान्तो मुच्येत बन्धेभ्यो
मुक्तश्चान्यान् विमोचयेत् ||
durjanah sajjano bhūyāt
śānto mucyeta bandhebhyo
Meaning of the Shloka:
In this shloka, Krishna is saying that let the wicked ones become good, let them realize what is goodness. Let these good ones attain peace. Once they are peaceful, let them release themselves from all the bondages. And once they have released all the bondages and have become detached, let them help others to get detached too. This will bring in peace and love.
The Essence of Family Constellations in the above Shloka:
Whether we are consciously aware or not, we are repeating destructive patterns of our DNA. For example, too much attachment with materialistic possessions or the greed to succeed at other’s cost and so on. In the above shloka, Krishna is preaching mankind to let off these wicked patterns coded in our DNA. The journey is definitely of a thousand miles, but it needs to begin with a single step. And hence, one needs to be ready to start the journey now. Whether other members of the family system are agreeing upon this path or not is their choice. Awakening of one person is important to begin the process of healing the system. Only when people can see the light in the other person, then they can see the need for healing for themselves.
When a person goes through a session of Family Constellations, they are actually bringing in a movement of change on a deeper level of consciousness. Hence, Krishna says that when one person can become peaceful, free themselves of bondages and become detached, only then can they be of help to others. So, if we want to bring about a change in our family, in our life on a deeper level which addresses all our levels of consciousness – physical, mental, emotional, spiritual then we need to take the first step and commit ourselves to completing the process. The commitment has to be from the heart and with a clean intention of healing themselves first.
One cannot expect people to identify and realize the change and the shift happening at the subconscious level while going through Family Constellation’s exercises or sessions. We need to just keep working and let the change happen to restore the flow of love within the system. When we as the current generation are able to bring about a shift in ourselves, then it will move forward to our descendants and at times to our ascendants as well. We will be in a position to help them only if we can help ourselves.
The important learning from this shloka is to commit ourselves for becoming detached from toxic patterns and thoughts inhibiting our minds. We need to heal those unprocessed emotions and thoughts coded in our system which are nothing but entanglements. It will help not just our descendants but also our ancestors as it will restore peace and love in the system. Once we are on this path, we can surely become helpful to a lot of people around us. This will help one to SERVE LIFE and there is nothing bigger than serving life!
Indeed, scriptures from all the religions have spoken a lot about systemic consciousness, it is just that we need to decode these messages. We shall surely continue this journey further exploring new messages from Bhagvad Gita.